First off, apologies if you follow me by email and got this post a few hours ago. I have no idea how it got published but I wasn’t quite done! That said, here’s the completed post 🙂
Lucas is changing, changing, changing! Three and a half has been such a fun age as we see him grow and mature and learn and thrive. He is such a joy.
I had all sorts of ideas about what Lucas would be like and how we would parent him before he came. Once he arrived, a lot of those ideas went the way of the dodo bird as they didn’t fit with who our little boy was. Oh the ideals I had. And how Lucas shattered them.
One of our unexpected deviations was Lucas’s sleep. Lucas was four weeks early and even on the night of his birth, when he was so tiny and should have been so sleepy, he would only sleep if he was held. This didn’t get much better after we got home from the hospital. The first few nights Jaime and I took turns holding him through the night. Eventually we found that he would sleep in the bouncy seat (which snuggled him), but only for 2-3 hours at a time. Then he wanted to be nursed or held.
When he outgrew the bouncy seat, the only way he would sleep any length of time was next to us in bed. When he was about 15 months old, we were finally able to get him to go to sleep in his own room on a mattress on the floor, but he would only ever sleep part of the night on there. He would always end up in bed with one of us. About six months ago he decided that moving from his room to ours in the middle of the night was silly, so he requested to go to bed directly in our room. It’s not that we didn’t try to help him be more independent in the night. But nothing ever made a difference no matter how long we stuck to it. He just needs us in the night. And that’s okay.
We’ve learned that when it comes to making changes and moving toward independence, it’s best to wait for Lucas’s timing when possible. Sometimes it still takes nudging on our part once we see he’s ready (like with the potty training) but sometimes he simply tells us when he’s ready for something.
A few weeks ago he told us that he’d like to go back to sleeping in his room, and that he wanted a big bed because he was a big boy. We were excited and thought we’d best jump on it before he changed his mind! It resulted in a few crazy days of scrambling as we shopped for a bed for him. I bought fabric to make some simple wall hangings and to recover his lampshade and the letters of his name, and sewed him a pillow and curtains. We found a comforter set and and sheets to match. His baby room was transformed into a big boy room!
If you’ve been following along, you probably remember that Lucas is obsessed with the color orange. He adores all things orange. And woe to anyone who tries to claim orange as their favorite. He feels the color belongs to him. We painted his room a lovely blue color before he was born, and since we were trying to pull this room together within just a few days, I really, REALLY didn’t want to paint. So we did our best to accent with orange, and he loves it!
Lucas has been sleeping in there every night since. He still doesn’t make it through the night alone. He’s gone as far as 6:00 am but he still calls nightly at some point and Jaime snuggles with him until it’s time to get up. We suspected this might happen and bought him a double bed which satisfied his desire for a “big” bed and gives us a comfortable way to lay next to him. We still cuddle with him at bedtime until he falls asleep. The other night he told us he wanted to go to sleep all by himself. He gave it a good college try, but a few minutes in we heard some sad sounds. We turned on the monitor and heard him wimpering, “Oh no, I’m scared, I’m just scared!” So we pulled the plug on that and helped him get to sleep. He’ll do it all alone once he’s ready. In the meantime, we enjoy the cuddles and snuggles and sweet times with our rapidly growing and changing little boy.
Here’s a few pictures of his big boy room!